As a coach, you bring out the best in those around you and encourage them to unlock the wisdom they already have within themselves. You are curious, empathetic, and a very encouraging presence. You allow others to explore new possibilities within themselves and unlock hidden potential, and you do so without imposing your own ideas on what they should be or want for themselves.
You lead by listening, offering a safe space for those around you to think for themselves and explore the possibilities. You are highly skilled in guiding conversations without dominating them, often asking questions that challenge those around you to think more deeply and reach a meaningful conclusion for themselves. You listen deeply, hearing what isn’t being said and guiding it to the surface for discussion without having to take over the conversation.
With your coaching, your team enjoys opportunities to explore new and exciting ideas and often reaches innovative solutions to greatly improve performance and morale. You inspire creativity, increase awareness, and illuminate the path toward progress and action.
You believe that everyone holds the key to unlock their own potential and wisdom, and it is your job to help them realize this. Your focus is on the people you work with rather than the tasks, because you know that everything will be done to a much higher standard when every member of the team is bringing their best foot forward. You set your sights on the future rather than immediate tasks, knowing that seeds sown today will result in a bountiful harvest later.
You fear others feeling pressured by you, the suffering of those you care about, and making bad judgments. Fear is a healthy emotion that alerts us when it is time to get prepared. Fear alerts us to the fact that something needs assessing. When you live in the space of fear it can become paralyzing and confusing. The feelings of anxiety and overwhelm can present themselves as guarded and tense. The opportunity is to embrace the fear as your friend. Shift the shallow breath to a deep breath and ask yourself, “Is this fear justified?” If so, “What do you need to prepare for?” It is also an opportunity to shift your story. Are you telling the story of empowering vs enabling, hoping for the best vs expecting successful outcomes, or wanting the best for them vs wanting what is best for you?
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Am I guiding them where they want to go?
Am I taking their struggles too personally?
Should I offer a different way for them to think about this?
Am I moving out of coaching and into mentoring?